when i hear people suggest that because a woman is showing skin she welcomes violation, i wonder if they realize that what they are really saying is
that a woman’s body is inherently meant for violation; her body is not her own, but rather for the consumption of others,
because, seriously, that’s what the statement implies.
in order to justify women being prey because they “show skin,” people have to believe that our bodies are nothing more than objects, objects that don’t even belong to us and are not meant to be taken care of, loved, and respected.
criminalize our bodies; demonize us; and that’s all you need for rape culture to be as pervasive as it is.
Slavery: “GET OVER IT!”
Imperialism: “GET OVER IT!”
Exploitation: “GET OVER IT!”
World Starvation: “GET OVER IT”
Genocide: “GET OVER IT!”
Occupation: “GET OVER IT!”
9/11: “NEVER FORGET!”
Rebloggable version, as requested by davrosbro. :)
Oooh! Yes! I love kisses. Kisses are where it all starts ;).
Okay, first, remember that a kiss is much, much more than just lips. It is lips, but also tongues, teeth, eyes, faces, hands, noses, bodies, heartbeats, breath, voice- and most importantly, a kiss is emotions. A kiss without emotion is just wet mushy lips stuck together. Ew. Gross. The most important part of a kiss isn’t the how, but the who- because of the emotions between the two people.
lips- Lips can slide, glide over each other smoothly, or they can be chapped and rough and dry and get stuck on each other. They can match, top-to-top and bottom-to-bottom, or they can overlap, with one person’s top or bottom lip captured between the other person’s lips (yummy). If there is lipstick or chapstick there is lipstick or chapstick flavor, otherwise, lips don’t have a taste (can you taste yours?). Lips also can smack- the sound of two of them coming together or pulling apart, because they’re wet and warm and soft.
tongue- Tongues are always wet, and always warm. They’re very versatile. They can trace over lips, teeth, or another tongue. They can be smooth and graceful or teasing and flicking. When tongues are involved, there is drool. It’s only sexy when you like the person you’re kissing, or else it’s kinda gross. :P
teeth- teeth can clack together awkwardly, or teeth can bite down sensually. A person biting their own lip is cute, a person biting another’s lips is sexy. A person biting gently is sensual, a person biting roughly is sexual.
eyes- Eyes can be wide open with surprise, half-lidded with desire, fully closed with pleasure. Eyes can gaze lovingly, lustfully, wistfully, hungrily, seductively- it all depends upon the emotions of your characters. Have them do whatever you like, but don’t leave them out- give them at least a mention!
faces- Faces are what the lips are attached to. Noses bump, cheeks flush, ears turn red, foreheads either wrinkle or relax. Kisses can leave lips, quite easily, and become kisses on chins, cheeks, noses, foreheads, ears, necks, throats. Kisses on noses or foreheads are cute and adorable, kisses on cheeks are sweet, kisses on chins, ears, and throats are very sexual. And a kiss on the lips can be all of those! <3
hands- Hands are super-important. In order to describe a kiss, usually you want to also describe the hands. Where are they? Does one character have their hand behind the other’s head or back, holding them close? Are they on someone’s shoulders pulling them near, or pushing them away? Fingers brushing someone’s cheek or palms grabbing someone’s ass convey two very different kinds of situations, even if the kiss itself is exactly the same.
noses- Noses are annoying. They easily get in the way, especially for first kisses! People have to tilt their head to one side or the other, and if they don’t, noses bump. I’d only mention noses if a kiss is supposed to be awkward or uncertain or nervous.
bodies- bodies are either close together, or far away. Someone can be surrounded comfortingly by someone’s arms, or terrifyingly trapped by them. Bodies are warm or hot, they are calm or nervous, relaxed or tense. Body language says a lot. Is your character pulling away, or moving closer?
heartbeat- Hearts can beat fast or slow, and that’s about all they can do- but there are lots of reasons why they do! A heart can beat fast with fear or excitement or nervousness; a heart can pound with lust or race with terror or sing with joy. Hearts can glow, cower, or shatter. When you really want to drive the emotions of a character home, mention the heart.
breath- To me, the most consuming part of a kiss is the breath. The air that someone else has just breathed going deep into your lungs is very intimate. Lips and tongues don’t have a taste, but breath does. Each person’s breath tastes different, smells different, and surrounds a person differently than anyone else’s breath. Breath can be warm and sweet, breath can be hot and sexy, breath can be hot and frightening. It is something that is very present and should not be left out. A lot of writers leave breath out. And it’s so important; it’s the most intimate part of a kiss. Someone else is breathing into your lungs, and it’s either heaven or it’s hell.
voice- Voice conveys much, even without words. A voice can groan, whimper, gasp, moan, catch, whine, scream, sigh. Voice can convey emotion powerfully, and while some kisses are silent, usually they’re not.
emotion- Emotion is the most important- and the thing you try not to say. You want to describe it, through all of the things above, so that it’s perfectly clear what your characters are feeling, without you ever using the “feelings words”. If they’re in love, their bodies will lean close, their eyes will smile, their voices will giggle softly. If they’re nervous, their palms will sweat, their noses will bump, their voices will shudder. If they’re afraid, their muscles will be tense, their faces will grimace, their lips will not open. Emotion is the color that you keep inside your mind as you write; it’s the base line that drives the description behind everything else you say.
Wow, that was a lot! Gosh I hope it wasn’t too much! Keep in mind not every kiss has all these things- this is just a list of things to consider when writing a kiss, and based on how long of a kiss you want to make. Keep in mind that typing “they kissed for a long time”…that’s six words, it takes half a second to read, so that’s a short kiss! If you want a long kiss, you need long sentences that make the reader linger.
So maybe to start off, pick three things on the list to describe in your first kiss. Don’t try to do it all- that would be too much for even the most epic kiss. Just pick what’s most important to this particular scene, to these particular characters, and describe those parts along with the lips, and you’ve got yourself an awesome, emotional kiss. <3
I can’t even fucking believe this is a fucking issue. Nobody accused Kuzco of being gay because he didn’t want to get married. Nobody fucking cared because it was a great movie. Give me a fucking break. God forbid you explore a mother-daughter relationship in a heartfelt way.
[Edit] And can we talk about that parallel with “The Emperor’s New Groove” a little more, because they’re both royalty, they’re both expected to marry, and both use transformational tactics to understand a different point of view. BUT Kuzco is able to reject quite a few very attractive women (without personalities) simply because he is too cool and impulsive to settle down. The only grounds upon which he rejects these women is their looks. Merida? Merida is presented with three suitors, two of whom appear to be idiots and one of whom is a blustering egotist with anger issues. Merida is young and vital and for her, as a woman, marriage will mean something completely different. Marriage won’t just mean strings attached, it will mean a complete loss of freedom and autonomy. She has EVERY REASON to delay this marriage, not to mention the fact that her suitors are expected to fight over her like a prize. She has no choice. Kuzco HAS a choice and yet nobody fucking cared because he was a dude, and dudes can go frolic in hilarious outdoor adventures without the humorless ugly ladies weighing them down. Men are absolutely free to have movies about them in politics, in the news, at a bachelor party, without any love interest mentioned. And that’s what we’re expected to watch. Whereas something like “Bridesmaids” is AUTOMATICALLY a chick flick because over 50% of the named characters are women. God forbid you have a movie with a woman as the main character without a love interest. Nobody wants to watch that. She’s probably a lesbian. Fuck you.
i downloaded a mod in skyrim that changes all the spiders to bears so the bears will liTERALLY DESCEND FROM THE CEILING OF CAVES
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It is no secret that prominent atheists often receive death threats, but, until this morning, I did not realize that the scope of the problem was as huge as it is.
I discovered this by accident. While reading “Free Will,” I stumbled across information that made it clear that Sam Harris, my favorite living author, is almost exactly the same age as myself. Since Wikipedia is a great source for dates of birth, I went to the article about Sam Harris, and only found a year: 1967.
I then went to Google. Since I edit Wikipedia, my intent was simply to find Sam Harris’s birthday, and improve this article a bit (the article itself is terrible, strictly in terms of quality, but that’s another subject).
Google does not know Sam Harris’s birthday, and that can only mean one thing: he has carefully concealed this information, for reasons of personal safety. He has also recently resumed martial-arts training, and has blogged about self-defense at www.samharris.org — and now, I understand why.
Further investigation has made me more aware of the magnitude of this problem. It is truly horrifying. It’s not just prominent atheists, either — innocent bystanders also receive death threats. Here is a story, from 2009, that documents this sort of thing: http://www.examiner.com/article/death-threats-force-removal-of-atheist-billboard
There will be additional posts on this subject. There will not, however, be ANY information revealed (if I stumble across any) about how to find Sam Harris, Richard Dawkins, or anyone else being threatened in this manner. (Those threatened because of that billboard have long since removed it.)
—RobertLovesPi, non-violent atheist (and holder of a black belt, myself — for, while I would never initiate violence against anyone, I do reserve the right to defend myself, if attacked).
I didn’t know about this until Robert posted it as I am woefully unconnected to or uncaring about celebrities/public figures. I may know their work, but I know little about their lives.
What I do know is that if these death threats are being initiated by the religious, they are doing a far better job at turning people away from their religion than any atheist ever could. I remember reading the comments made by theists last year after Hitchens died. It was surreal and sickening for me to see people rejoicing in his death, not because he was a mass murderer, but because he was an atheist. People were actually crediting their god with his death.
It’s no secret that he was not always my favorite person, and I did not agree with some of the things he had to say, especially about Muslims. However, I despise Pat Robertson, Fred Phelps, and Bryan Fischer, but other than wanting them to stop spreading their hate, I have no desire to see them dead. I would also not see their deaths as a cause for celebration.
Threatening a person’s life because of their lack of belief is absolutely appalling. Celebrating a person’s death, not their life, but actually being happy because they’ve died and are going to you perceived hell, is sickening.